An insistence on radiant beauty, despite all of the vapidity and the vehement violence. Basically, there was a space heater that I didnt turn off, that my mattress got embroiled with. Be the first to learn about new releases! Start by following Alok Vaid-Menon. Its not just that you internalize the shame; rather, it becomes you. You no longer need the people at school telling you not to dress like that; you already do it to yourself. I am sorry that the only way we have been taught to heal is to hurt. School, Vaid-Menon explained to me, was difficult, and they needed an outlet. And what does it mean to move from there? Rather than telling cisgender people how to help trans people, Vaid-Menon said they reframe the conversation to ask cisgender people if they're ready to heal from the ways the gender binary has affected them. We punish them until they conform. They tell us to be ourselves, but if you listen closely, theres more to that sentence: . Beauty has a way of justifying violation in the name of benevolence. Then you cannot tell the difference between their shame and your own between a body and an apology., Some gender non-conforming people are nonbinary, and some are men and women. And that kind of sense of recognition and that sense of self-acceptance and that sense of surrender to the kind of quiet pulse of the earth having a heartbeat is what I would describe why we do this thing. Fill out the booking request form or call our office at 1.800.698.2536, and one of our agents will assist you to book Alok Vaid-Menon for your next private or corporate function. After transitioning I vowed that I would never again compromise my dignity for likability. And then I ask it until I can remember that the shame was not my own. It felt like I didnt have a body anymore. Well hear from authors, artists, wisdom bearers, and Buddhist teachers, people who have experienced a shift in their perspectives on life throughout their personal journey. Fill out a, Booking fees for Alok Vaid-Menon, or any other speakers and celebrities, are determined based on a number of factors and may change without notice. That color brings too much attention to yourself, that you should try to tone it down to fit into the visual cues of the dominant world. What kind of person do I want to be? I really believe in the divinity of all of us, that we are souls first, bodies second. To live in America is to already attend a funeral with complete strangers.. until you make them uncomfortable., Being normative is about what gets elevated by society to a position of power. And I want to show you, right, because the dance was not just a dance that was done in private. Like, Ive experienced this goodness, this rightness, this alignment, this beauty, why would I not want other people to be part of it? Be the first to learn about new releases! As a full-service talent booking agency, we have access to virtually any speaker or celebrity in the world. Alok Vaid-Menon in Oxfordshire, England, on Nov. 22, 2019. Stuart C. Wilson / Getty Images for The Business of Fashion Nonbinary activist Alok Vaid-Menon broke down the history of and problems with the gender binary and how people can fight against it in video that has gone viral on social media. The team at All American Entertainment represents and listens to the needs of organizations and corporations seeking to hire keynote speakers, celebrities or entertainers for speaking engagements, personal appearances, product endorsements, or corporate entertainment. Eyes on the Prize: Fashion plays an important role in Mx. So color is part of that. Awaken is sponsored by Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, a print and digital magazine dedicated to making Buddhist teachings broadly available. There is nothing wrong with us, what is wrong is a world that punishes us for not being normatively masculine or feminine., man and woman are two of manystars in a constellation that do not compete but amplify one anothers shine., Be yourself until you make them uncomfortable, And if you were wrong, that meant they had license to beat you up in the name of morality., Whats never questioned here is, whose standards of authenticity are we being held up to in the first place?, And we tell the kids who dont fit into our categories that they are wrong. Because before I could speak, I could gesture. But color was one of the first realms of resistance I had. You know, I think that theres a lot of misapprehension, miscomprehension about people like me. Addeddate 2016-11-04 00:33:48 Closed captioning no Duration 199 Identifier Reincarnation_-_Alok_Vaid-Menon to live in america is to blame thedead for their own death, notthe country for creating the veryconditions that already killed thembefore they caught up andmade things more clear, which is why when i tell theliberal who wears words like diplomacyand democrat that i will not pay his taxesbecause i do not want my coins to cause carnageand he calls me a terrorist(i understand), which is why when i tell himthat i do believe in monsters who comeout at night, call them men for shortand he tells me that i only dress femme because i want to be bashed(i understand), which is why when i tell himthat the very women who started our movementare still being murdered in the same cities wheremen are getting married and calling it momentousand he gasps: that happens here? How do I express it? At her funeral I had to dress as the man she wanted me to be. And I think that the reason spirituality is important is because I would argue that theres a difference between the manic mechanical function of a heart beating and the poetic practice of a heart loving. This writer and performance artist is fighting for a world where all people are able to self-determine their gender. I am proud to be part of a generation of artists who are challenging mainstream beauty and showing the world that niche is the new norm. 0 coins. When I play music, its not just that Im playing music, its that Im setting the scene to be alive. Leaving us a review is one of the best ways to help this podcast reach more listeners like you. Big Break: This summer, Mx. What kind of energy do I want to be a part of? WebAmanda and Liam Lezra. Why would you do this, if it exposed you to more harm and scrutiny? It always has been, and it always will be. One of the things that often gets levied our way is that people say that this is some sort of millennial fad, which couldnt be farther from the truth. we have been taught to fear the very things that have the potential to set us free, Its not just that you internalize the shame; rather, it becomes you. The Museum closes at 5:00 PM on the Friday before Labor Day, the day after Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and New Years Eve. What a joy it is to be able to curate the sounds of my own soundtrack. I think for me it also takes the form of style. That hatred you feel when you see us having the audacity to live a life without compromise, that hatred is for yourSELF.". Vaid-Menon is a gender nonconforming artist, writer and comedian who uses their work to redefine beauty standards, examine colonialism and explore fluid identity. Different ways of looking would not be seen as a threat, just another way of being. When I see things that I love, when I learn new things, when I read new books, when I encounter new ideas, I want to share it with everyone in the world. I think that when it comes to trans people, the narrative right now is so obsessed with us and a collateral damage of existing and having in the world as a trans person, like, woe are them. Toward the start of the conversation, Heath told Vaid-Menon that when he listens to them speak, he asks himself, "Why do I not fight for them?". The word artist is one of possibility, not constriction, they said. And so much of the formalization and consolidation of European-Western modernity was also a project of aesthetics and color. And if youre enjoying this podcast, leave us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Wayfarer Studios LLC. "They've repressed their own femininity. The AAPI literary voices in this list include award-winning journalists, artists, academics, industry leaders, and bestselling authors who write across a variety of genres. Vaid-Menon said. In 2019 ALOK was invited to close the Business of Fashion Voices Conference with a keynote speech calling for the degendering of fashion and beauty industries. I dont know if Ill ever be able to account for the grief of it, but I think that what I can do and what I hope to do is to believe that healing is possible. Fill out the booking request form or call our office at 1.800.698.2536, and one of our agents will assist you to book Alok Vaid-Menon for your next private or corporate function. Let, This #trans couple will be the first known parents, With anti-LGBTQ+ and anti-trans legislation on the, Because its the New Year, lets talk about ch, How to set a boundary? Transgender Model & Advocate; Founder of Gender Proud. Why do engrained beauty standards so often require some of us to become invisible in order to make other people feel more comfortable? Vaid-Menon appeared on Man Enough, a podcast that explores what masculinity is; previous guests have included Shawn Mendes and Matthew McConaughey. But for me, beauty is what we feel like. Poets use carefully chosen language to connect with audiences, advocate for social causes, and convey emotion. Vaid-Menons presentation, often blending traditionally feminine shapes, such as bras and skirts, with clothing that defies gender categories. And what I gained was my life back. Like that feels like the real treat of the wedding. Trans activist and actress Laverne Cox and actor Billy Porter both shared clips from the episode. To use his own words, he once declared, I am not a man. 2017 also saw ALOK being selected as the youngest recipient of the Live Works Performance Act Award, granted to ten performance artists across the world. And I can feel it there in the way that I move. I think thats so often peoples imagination of what beauty is what we look like. In this performance-lecture ALOK presents a 21st century approach to gender rights, calling for an end to the gender binary. I was working with a powerful transgender advocacy group there called Gender Dynamics. The Mandala Lab is reserved for family programming from 1:00 PM - 3:00 PM every Sunday. So the goal has always been about elimination of us. Join for an evening of poetry, stand-up comedy, drag, and more as they take their audience on an emotional roller coaster all the way from the personal to the political. Stuart C. Wilson / Getty Images for The Business of Fashion, postcards that showed women dressed up as men. Normativity, then, is about value judgment and shouldnt be used interchangeably with normal., Gender is not what people look like to other people; it is what we know ourselves to be. And I realized that pain cant be eternal, because I can still make beauty from it. Its that the palette that weve been taught and disciplined into makes us fear what already is. New video daily http://bit.ly/buttonpoetryIf you loved this poem, check out Andrea Gibson: http://bit.ly/MaybeINeedYouAlok Vaid-Menon, performing in Minneapolis.Button Facebook: http://facebook.com/buttonpoetryButton Twitter: http://twitter.com/buttonpoetryButton Instagram: http://instagram.com/buttonpoetryButton Tumblr: http://buttonpoetry.tumblr.comAbout Button:Button Poetry is committed to developing a coherent and effective system of production, distribution, promotion and fundraising for spoken word and performance poetry.We seek to showcase the power and diversity of voices in our community. Their work as a leading figure in the movement for gender fluidity takes them from starring in HBOs "The Trans List" (2016) and "Random Acts of Flyness" (2018), to designing three gender-neutral fashion collec-tions, to modeling for New York Fashion Week and Vogue editorials, and to gracing the stages of venues such as Beautycon, the New York Times Global Assembly, and SXSW to speak about overcoming marginalization and self-acceptance. Gauge interest and check availability for speaking engagements, appearances or corporate events, Provide you with the speaking fee to book Alok Vaid-Menon or other celebrity appearance fees, Give you personal recommendations for the best keynote speakers or celebrities, Assist you with any questions you have throughout the talent booking process, First Transgender Man to Make Team USA, Transgender Advocate, Triathlete & All-American Duathlete, Founder of TransTech Social Enterprises & Actress in the FX Drama "Pose", Attorney, Author & LGBTQ Rights Activist; Motivational Disability Speaker; Founder of the Trans People of Color Coalition, CNN & ESPN Columnist; Celebrated Voice on Sports, Race & Gay Rights, Openly Gay Actor Known for My So Called Life, Thirteen Reasons Why & Star Trek: Discovery, Executive Director of "Equality for HER", Activist & Mental Health Advocate, Transgender & Gender-Nonconforming Activist; Executive Editor of "Out" & Former National Organizer for Transgender Law Center, Transgender Activist; National Face of Transgender Student Rights, Peloton Instructor & Makeup Artist; Founder of SPEAK Instagram Live Series, Tony Award-Winning Actor; Best Known NBC's "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit" & "Mr. Alok Vaid-Menon Finds Beauty Beyond Gender, https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/04/style/alok-vaid-menon-artist-nonbinary-poet-activist.html. Then I convened a group of us at the end of that summer and I recited it to them. What feminine part of yourself did you have to destroy in order to survive in this world? they tell us that someone jumped in front of the tracksthat he died upon impactso we just sit there in silence as they remove his remains. Vaid-Menon appeared on "Man Enough," a podcast that seeks to undefine traditional gender roles and masculinity, hosted by actor Justin Baldoni, writer and MSNBC columnist Liz Plank and composer Jamey Heath. And I wanted so badly back then to be a dancer. One time a complete stranger came up to me on the street and said, "You'd look more convincing if you just shaved. Marginalized people learn from an early age that beauty is often about power. If it was universal and just, it would not need to be constantly proven. Beauty is about looking like yourself, even in the face of social and cultural repression. But what I like about a wedding dance party is everyone is just being gnarly and foolish and playful. I guess the academic in me would say, I felt like I was no longer a subject. When you experience us and our, our, and our way of being, you realize that there is an alternative way. 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